DrugBuyers.Com: Busted for possession...please help I'm scared

Yeppers,

What exactly were you looking for by posting this?

Did you want legal advice on the unfair situation you've been placed in against your will by an uncaring society, ruled by overzealous, coercive laws? Did you want tips on how to beat these BS laws, made by politicians who are just as bad and can buy themselves out of any similar situation anyway (and in turn, why bother following them?)?

Did you expect a few posts saying how sorry we were this happened to you, that it's really not at all your fault, that you're not an alcoholic and definitely don't have a problem, and that we 100% believe your story and would never even think to see your word as anything but gospel?

Did you want us to tell you we all secretly drive drunk, that people who condemn that just don't get it because they've never been there- that you really were in control of that car, that you really do have night blindness, that we all make mistakes, and that you weren't really endangering anyone's life because you weren't THAT messed up and besides the road was empty anyway? That you wouldn't have driven if the road wasn't empty- that a .12 is sometimes acceptable depending on your tolerance to alcohol?

Is that *really* what you wanted?

That's the picture you are trying to paint, and I think under the surface you know it's all BS. I can't tell if you are rationalizing this to yourself, to us to save face, or both?

I do feel sorry for whatever life circumstances or genetics led you to alcoholism. But...

...you can't even admit you're an alcoholic! You just have a "well, I have a slight tendency to drink when the blues get the best of me" problem? You can go to all the counseling and therapists and detox's and rehabs in the world, and spend all the time and money you have on them- it won't do ANYTHING for you if you 1) can't admit you have a serious problem and 2) don't want help.

Calling alcoholism a "well I'm more like an abuser, I take it just recreationally when I'm upset like everyone else" problem is like saying an armed robber has a "well, he's got more of a financial difficulties problem, and just chooses to do something about it- why does his victim deserve more money than he does?" problem.

Are you trying to minimize this to us to save face, or is it really you don't think you're an alcoholic?

Yeppers, if DWI had no real penalties, like it was just a $500 fine and an insurance surcharge, are you trying to tell me you wouldn't keep drinking? Of course you would, why would you stop? In the same vein, if you do get acquitted for this, you're not going to get help, are you? You don't even think there's a serious problem- just a little one. And to top that off, aren't you just going to go back to drinking? Here is the answer to that:

The answer to both questions is a yes and you Best if kept off the board well know it!

What in God's holy name does it take to get through to you, Yeppers?

Do you really want help? Do you really not want to just get acquitted and then try a more responsible approach to occasional drinking- you know, like having a glass of weak wine with dinner and then driving home if you can't get a ride?

If you don't want help, there is nothing we can do for you other than chastize you for this in the hopes someone may hit a nerve and you will see the light.

If you do think you might want help, take a long, honest look at yourself and your life- as painful as it might be- and decide if you have a real problem, not a bullsh*t problem like you've tried to make it appear here to no avail.

Yeppers- I am sorry for whatever personal pain and life circumstances you've experienced that have led you to this problem in the first place.

But you have done everything so far to cover up the problem- you have taken every creative liberty to minimize everything here that you could possibly be criticized for. In my mind, that's either a sign you don't want help or you want us to call you on it so you can realize it yourself. And when you have been called on it, you are really stretching the definition of "help" and how you've gone about it and even then, still made the problem seem as minimal as possible.

No one here wants to see you in pain for the sake of being in pain. We want you to get better, whatever that takes. And some people think it takes more than others. I know you won't get help unless you realize there's a BIG problem, no matter what happens to you. How much worse does your life have to get before you be 100% honest with yourself about *everything* and finally seek some REAL help?

-yawkaw