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I mean, if you can't be honest then what's the point?
Do you mean what is the point of the relationship? I do agree with you that honesty is SO the best policy. I have been married WAY too long for there to not be a point to my relationship with my husband. Not always the greatest, I must admit. This is hard to put into words without sounding like I am a martyr or something and I am not trivializing my pain, cause it sure the hell is there. but in the grand scheme of things,(this being my family,mainly my kids) there are just certains times when best not to rock the boat.(that really is a bad choice fo words) but as long as I can do what I need to do and they are taken care of, husband included there is no point in me causeing an uproar with him that will trickle down to my kids' happiness. After being with someone for so long, I know what he can handle and what he can not, but it would also be a double edged sword for me. I have not gotton what I needed from my doc and quit going to the umteen specialist that I am suppose to go to so I come here, but if I do not get the releif I truly need husband would end up having to be too much of a help to me, which in turn our finances (such as they are) would be worse, in turn my kids would surly suffer. So........ for me at least the best thing to do is to keep certain things to myself, sure I would love to be able to share this with him, and have him understand. but he is who he is and me, I am who I am and my main objective is to raise happy young people to the best of my ability. sorry I hope this doesn't sound preachy it is not meant to, but I know there are others that are in a position like mine, and ya just gotta do what ya gotta do.And the last thing ya want to do is hurt someone.
chevygal
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