Chitownlady
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Went to see a new doc yesterday for my endometriosis. He does the exam and then proceeds to lecture me for about 15 minutes on a proper diet. I abruptly ended the meeting saying I had to get back to work, which I did and asked if he could prescribe something for the pain I was experiencing and he said NO, I do not prescribe narcotics, my advice to you is to take some aspirin. WTF? I left so angry and upset, the whole reason I went to him and not the ER was because of the pain I was experiencing. Is there anything I can do? Thanks a bunch....
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catmom
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I say--change docs!!! What a jerk! It's docs like him that used to give Jack Kevorkian a lot of clients who wanted assisted suicide because of their untreated pain!
I am sorry you were treated so badly, Chitownlady. 
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prettyday
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Go to Google and start doing a search, narrowing down as you go, for compassionate doctors in your region. That is the best advice I can give you, and I hope you find help quickly. I will send a little prayer for you!
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night_shade
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I suffered fibroid tumors, endometriosis AND endocervical/uterine cancer before a doctor FINALLY suggested a hysterectomy. Thankfully, I had my children early as I had my hysterectomy when I was TWENTY FIVE. I know the pain this causes, but I must say, I NEVER got narcotics for it, not even when they did the multiple D&Cs. In fact, after multiple laparoscopies done for the DX of endometriosis, I would get Darvocet for the post-surgical pain. Only after the hysterectomy did I get Percocet.
My life became SO much more enjoyable after the surgery!!! SEX was once again possible, no periods, no 20-day-long periods, no anemia, no PAIN!!!
Obviously surgery is the last option, but every woman in my maternal family has had the same thing I do. Every one of us has had a hysterectomy and it was a GODSEND.
You did not specify whether your doctor today was a gynecologist? If not, go to an OB/GYN, if possible.
Trust me, life is MUCH better not trying to treat the symptoms, but having NO symptoms at all!!
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fieldgoal
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Reged: 10/16/03
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Chitownlady,
You saw an uncompassionate moron of a doctor. Time to move on.
Think of finding a good doctor as hitting the jackpost on a slot machine... it usually takes quite a bit of tries.
Chuck
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chevygal
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Loc: Way down south
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night_shade
THey keep telling me this. I have fibroids(have had 3 D&C's), endo and have had what they say was very close to cancer of the cervix. I just had the leep once, the cone procedure once. THe endo is pretty bad and they have told me either hyster. or they can give me shot to put me through menopause. They say because of my age I should have a hysto. I just hate when they say that though LOL. I am 41, and I am so scared to have surgery. I was afraid it would ruin sex, but your words are encouraging. It is painful(sex). May I pm you in the future if I have some questions or maybe just some encouragment.
Chitown, I do sympathize with you. I know how painful it is. I don't even ask my gyn for anything. She is very young (I feel like I cuold be her mom) and she is just full of diet changes, optimism ect, and it totally gets on my nerves.LOL. I only go to her when I absolutely have to. Good luck, and I do hope you can get some relief. I use a heating pad ALOT. I do find that ibuprophen does help some, not alot but some.
chevygal
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Flavia
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Been there - done that. Change now. I went one too many times to a crazy pain doctor, and I will never get over it.
Fortunately, I did find a nice compassionate dr. who takes good care of me now. Flavia
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night_shade
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All you girls (and Chevygal, even at 40-something, you are still a GIRL!!) considering hysterectomy for any gynecological problem...
I kept my ovaries as estrogen/progesterone always exacerbated my migraines. I still feel the hormonal part of having a period, only I don't have a period (what more can you ask for???  )
If you are worried about early menopause, or having to take estrogen replacement therapy, keeping your ovaries is an excellent solution. The problem with NOT having HRT after complete hysterectomy includes all the awful menopausal symptoms and osteoporosis possibly, dry skin and OTHER, (hint, hint) dryness, possible cardiac problems, etc.
Like I said in my previous post, life just got so much better after my hysterectomy. I did suffer from slight depression about being infertile (even though I never wanted more children in reality) -- it was just that the CHOICE was now not mine to make. A very small price to pay to get rid of that awful pain and weakness.
Anyone can feel free to PM if they want to talk about this sensitive issue.
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moonbeam
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My decision to have a hysterectomy was the smartest thing I've done in my life! I suffered miserably for years, only to have doctors tell me "that's NOT what you want to do!" Finally, I decided to go to the OB/GYN and complain once a week until he finally relented. Best thing I've ever done!
I let them have it all, including ovaries. I'm on a plant derived hormone (not mares urine), and I actually only take one pill every other day. It was as if my nightmare had finally ended.
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Beetlenut
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I thought fibroids typically INCREASED menstrual flow. And the quack told you to take ASPIRIN?? That's a lawsuit waitin' to happen...
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quaker
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Reged: 08/20/03
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I had a wonderful GYN. Before I changed jobs and my insurance changed. After that he was not in my network any longer. I had fibroid tumors and another large tumor on my ovary. My first doctor gave me 7.5 percocet for pain during my cycle. He wanted to do a hysterectomy, like Chevy Gal I was scared and I did not want all the after effects of surgery. I waited about a year before I found my new GYN. He is a good doctor but not the compassionate doctor I had.
I had my hysterectomy on Oct. 21 My doctor sent me back to work 5 weeks after surgery. I am an assisant manager at a restaurant and we work long hours. My first week back was 72 hours before my days off came around. I was feeling ok before I went back to work. I feel he should have known that a person who has had surgery would not be ready for those kinds of hours. I did not know because I had never had anything like this done before. I am really upset with him He knew the job I have is very demanding. Now I am weak from pushing myself so hard so soon. Both the managers over me are men and they feel since the doctor released me I must be 100% better. Since I am on salary and got paid while I was off they really push it to make up for lost time.
Quaker
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night_shade
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Hi Quaker- how awful! Sort of like my job as a restaurant manger back when my oldest son was born. He was born, I was back to work full-time 2 days later bleeding and lactating up a storm!
Did you have an abdominal hysterectomy? I refused to allow them to mine vaginally. I have heard it is less recovery time for vag hysterectomy, but I already had multiple abdominal scars from previous abdominal surgery and just wanted it done where I could monitor incision healing, etc. It took about 2 months to feel up to par again.
I know the demands of employers are harsh, but if it gets too bad, go to the ER and get a note there for a week or so more off work. Circumvention is often the key to making things happen! GOOD LUCK!
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Chitownlady
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Reged: 10/30/03
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Loc: IL
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UPDATE: I sent a letter to the dept. of professional regulation complaining about this doctor and his gross negligence, they promptly wrote back and said they'd be investigating further and get back to me. I hope I did the right thing, usually I would just find another doctor but this one made me so mad, I just had to do something!
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quaker
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Reged: 08/20/03
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Loc: south east
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You went back to work two days after having a child that is amazing. Lets face it. It takes a strong woman to manage a restaurant.
I had an abdominal hysterectomy the tumor on my ovary was the size of a baseball. It was to large to do any other way. After the doctor got in there it was worse than he thought. There was small tumors on both ovaries and growing on my uterus and a wall growing inside my uterus. Thank God none were cancer. Then the statement was made now I see why you were having so much pain. Never did my second doctor offer me anything for pain. When I went back to work he told be that I would have quit a bit of pain until my body got use to the hard work agian. I wish I would have had it done while I was with my first doctor. He would have never let me go back to work without restrictions. I feel the worse of it is over now. I have been back to work 2 weeks now. Of course we know Christmas time is the busiest time of the year.
It is so nice to have someone listen that understands. Thanks!!
Quaker
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quaker
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I feel you made the right move. Really it is time that we stand up for ourselves. We pay doctors a handsome fee for their services. He had no right to treat you the way he did. You did not deserve that. It is time they realize they are doctors being paid for what they know and not gods. We are their customers who are paying for their nice homes cars ect...
Have you found another doctor yet? I really know what you are going through. I admire you for standing up for your rights.
Quaker
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night_shade
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I was always given at least 6 weeks by my surgeons before returning to work--no matter what my surgery was (except laps and D&Cs) but I remember the appendectomy being the most painful to recover from.
My hysterectomy recovery was about as painful as my c-section was (same entry scar, so now I have some just beautiful scarring on my belly!!) and it was about 5-6 weeks as I recall. I made the mistake of going to Las Vegas only 2 weeks after the hysterectomy. Stayed with my gay brother-in-law and they were into "herbal" stuff. They gave me this "cleansing" pill and my whole trip was ruined from the insane amount of bathroom trips I had to make---and all that abdominal strain on top of my surgery! OUCH, OUCH, OUCH!
Moral of the story--don't use STRONG laxatives after abdominal surgery! At least I can laugh about it today!
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quaker
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My c-section scar goes across and my hysterectomy scar goes up and down. My c-section was a much easier recovery for me. Of course that was 19 years ago. If it wasn't for all the heavy lifting I don't think I would have had as hard of time. Mentally my nerves were shot. So many people has told me it is the best thing they could have done for themselves. I am still waiting.
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