Thank you all for the replys. I have considered the benzo route but after reading about how the w/d are worse than hydro and the addictiveness, etc, etc I was really trying to avoid them. I definately will try acupuncture, as I have used it before and it did help. I think part of my problem is my deep sleep, I never slept well and then adding children didn't help. I sleep with one ear open if you know what I mean . I don't like the thought of being in such a deep sleep I won't hear one of them.
A couple years ago I was going through horrid headaches. I had jaw surgery 20 years ago and have always had them but this was far worse then 'normal' . A few times a month I would get migranes as well. My pcp at the time put me on a low dosage of Nortrypline( sp is wrong I know). At a low dosage it works as a sleep pill. HOLY cow did it work. Her belief was my headaches were caused from a lack of deep sleep. Partly of which was true, so I took them for 4 months and it did help to restore me. I still get headaches but mainly from the TMJ but again I have had them literally for the last 20 years so its almost like I am used to it. I guess my point being is while I certainly liked being ' knocked' out to the point where I finally slept I don't feel its too responsible as a parent to do that. Not to mention I work nights and I hardly am able to get a full nights sleep so I tend to spend the day groggy if I take something to help me sleep.
I was hoping there was a decent MR that could help me so I wouldn't have to wake up with my neck and shoulders so tight.
I may try a differnt MR first before trying the valium .
Again thank you all for the replys. I am so grateful this board is here with all the support and help.