That makes me want to cry. I don't want to pass judgment, but I remember being pregnant last year, and I had chronic pain issues, but I knew I had to stop taking the pain meds for my baby. I so thankful that I was able to do that. Your friend will probably live in her own private hell for the rest of her life. I hope she gets help and can somehow forgive herself. Is it possible though, that it was somehing else that happened to the baby? When I was pregnant, I told my doctor that I had been taking hydro regularly before I knew I was pregnant and she said the baby would be fine, just to find other pain relief. MAybe the amount and duration your friend had been on was too much. I'm just so sad for that little soul, and your friend, too.