Sarah, honey, you may need a new man....and trust me, there is someone out there for you, and you won't meet him tied up with someone who's hung up on the fact you cant hold your ankles behind your head for 15 minutes at a time anymore(take a moment an let that mental picture settle in, LOL!) My husband has stuck with me when most men would have checked out, mentally if not completely, a long time ago! I've got 3 scars that are approx 6 inches in length, (abdomen, back, side) about 6 more that are 3-4 inches in length, here, there and EVERYWHERE on my torso, a battery implanted under the skin of my upper abdomen (looks like a large tumor in there), and my left calf is quite obviously much smaller than my right (my legs look like they belong to two different people), meaning I look like a distored Raggedy Ann in the buff, but my husband still tells me I'm beautiful every day and he does it in such a way that I usually believe him! Look at Ocean, she found someone post entering the CP twilight zone,...you hang in there, I believe in my heart your prince is out there, please don't settle....it's the greatest gift in life!