mello
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I'm sure I'm not alone in this...I have noticed a lot of bickering on the board lately. I for one am really not interested in reading two posters constant digs at each other...that's what PMs are for. I am getting tired of seeing a new post to a thread and entering thinking I am going to be reading a new helpful addition only to read back to back insults. I am not going to mention any specific names, but a "few" people tend to do it EVERYDAY. I admit that a couple of times I have given in to my temptation to call someone on their very rude behavior, but I have recently decided to just ignore it as I am only wasting other people's time who are trying to read HELPFUL information, not silly high school drama. Please people, don't waste our reading time...use PMs for your personal disagreements.
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bhamdave
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Yep ..............they do! Not only that, it destroy's their "crediblity".
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fluffyfeller
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Agreed - it is getting ridiculous. What ever happened to "posting school" or getting banned for a few days so trouble makers can cool off?
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Raoul
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Mello, well said. Thank you!
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toky20
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Some people just like to be in the spotlight, I guess.
Thank you for your post and thanks to those who agree....I was starting to feel alone in the H.S. bathroom fights!
Take care,
Toky
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qbird
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Well said Mello! I am tired of these stupid battles on the board too and negative digs at other members who are just trying to find info. Lets keep this board friendly please. 
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gwb
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Must agree!I too, thought this was a forum of the thoughtful exchange exchange of experiences and helping each other out.There have been some nasty recriminations that make you cringe to read.You put it all in a neat little bundle.Thank you.Maybe the name calling calling can stop for awhile?
gwb
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Jordan530
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THANK YOU, Mello! I'm so glad someone finally said something about this. Reminds me of 2nd grade.
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summer
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This really is not a place to play baby school and bicker and argue, we're ALL here because we are suffering in one way or another and the DB board is supposed to be the place where you come to find understanding, compassion, information and hopefully relief-
as always just my opinion-
summer
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NickyStix
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I remember when I first joined VIP along time ago they would erase all my posts when I would start busting on anyone.
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txtall1
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I agree Mello.
It was good for awhile. Everyone was on topic and no bickering. Hopefully the guilty parties will read and
stop the nonsense.
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TLT
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well said guys,, But it seems to me, I just read a nasty post in all places ( meeting place).. They need to pm whoever they're reffering to and leave it off the boards.. I have enough conflict in my day to day life. I come here for support, and answers, not conflict or bickering..
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Sky_Queen
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I totally agree with you Mello, thanks for your post.
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arabhorse
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I think categorically dismissing something as 'conflict' and automatically defining that as 'bad' while disregarding the context of the message is wrong. I agree you shouldn't post if your intent is to denigrate another poster in some sort of childish 'high-school' conflict using personal attacks.
However, I think it is totally valid to challenge (on the board, publicly) someone's assertions when you think they are incorrect, deceptive or harmful (yes, prescription drug misinformation can be quite harmful, deliberate or not). In that case, I think it is a good thing to call someone out and ask them to clarify something or to correct their bad information if you know 100% that what they are saying is false. In this sense, conflict is the way to truth. We should not let something that's questionable be allowed to stand simply because we don't want to hurt the other poster's feelings, whether it be a fact about a med (its action, dosage, purity, consistency, etc. ), or a reliable source.
By challenging dis- and mis-information, we make the board a better place with better information.
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antigone
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I agree that people being derogatory and rude is unnecessary, but arab, you make an excellent point. Thanks.
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bayerachim
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IMO the personal conflicts posted publicly have almost disappeared during the last months in both boards. I don't read the US threads because I cannot make use of the info and the pharmacies. Are things different there? If think of a certain "... the Man" .......
Achim
Edited by bayerachim (02/24/03 05:59 AM)
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DrugBuyers
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If you see problems on the board, or in PM's, simply notify the moderator or the administrator. Let them know where the problem is and they will take it from there, will give warnings, and if needed will ban the members that are a problem...
Report nasty PM's and offers you receive by PM too.
We need your help.
But if you do not notify us we will not know there is a problem.
Just complaining in general does not help. You have to let us know where the problem is.
All the posts above do not give any information. We do not know which posts or which users are making you unhappy...
Send us a PM. Let us know what bothers you.
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Pickledoo
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I have virtually ceased to post for these very reasons. I do still benefit from other's experiences but I have no patience or time for bull-pucky.
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seanyboy
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I generally find that those who bicker are not frequent posters and don't usually hang around too long if you just ignore them
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qbird
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You are correct SB. On all boards it seems as someone comes in and stirs up things a bit and just disappears. I think they get their kicks that way. You are right it is best to just ignore them. As DB says, "It takes two to argue."
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Beetlenut
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Loc: Colorado
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Yes, you are SO RIGHT. There has been so much bickering and digging going on lately the past couple of months I CAN'T STAND IT.
But the one person that makes the most CRITICAL replies OF ALL to other people actually posted in this thread !!!!!!
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parusski
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arabhorse I also agree with you. It is possible, and desirable, to politely challenge someone publicly if incorrect info is posted. But this is not allowed, so pm'ng someone is a good way.
UNLESS someone screams back at you when you pm them.
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TLT
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Why can't we all get along,, conflict, challenge, or whatever you want to define it as. We are here to share info, our personal experiences, and to give and recieve support from other chronic pain sufferers.
. I just think positive things about other members,should be kept in our posts. Unless we are griping about poor service from an OP ,,of course..
I totally agree with Toky,, on this one Why else would someone care if people misstate info,unless they want to stand out in the crowd. DB clearly states if you see an improper post to notify them.
Peace!!
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parusski
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Yes, the rules do state as much. That is why I SAID it is not allowed. Actually, it is not a good idea to pm someone if you disagree with them. That can get u into trobule too. Hell, you can make someone give birth to a hippo if you just send a polite pm.
Peace..to everyone-including the polite dictators of the world.
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tansun
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shoot - least it gives me something to read - bicker on for all i care !!!!! ( no really , everyone must try to be nice and get along ) but difference of opinion sometimes sounds as if we are bickering , and that is not always the case . Hard to read something and know what emotion was supposed to go with it . sometimes , maybe it was typed in a jokeing way, and taken wrong , or maybe someone wasnt trying to be rude - we all need a break once in a while - we all mess up - but if they are bickering every day , then they must go to the principls office or detention or something 
Tansun
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debbie
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perfect way to say it TLT. I was in a board where there was alot of bickering, and then I came here, and feel so much more welcome and just accepted here. Thanks, everyone! I believe people here are more respectful to one another. I sure hope I have not said anything wrong in my posts ....I sure dont believe I have.
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moonshade
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I like this board and am also a member of VIP board. One of the reasons I like the forums so much is because cursing, and "aggressive" behavior is not allowed. When you do sometimes see something offensive on here, it is removed pretty quickly by moderator. I appreciate that, and also appreciate all of you that post like intelligent, respectful, and just plain "nice" adults !
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toky20
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Hell, you can make someone give birth to a hippo if you just send a polite pm.
that sounds very scary. something you've seen in person?
I think that for the most part, considering how many members are on this board, we do a pretty good job of being kind to each other. Every once in a while it goes to far, but that's how some people are.
Take Care,
Toky
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Gottajiboo
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I guess I was a ''flamer'' in the past, I hate to read a post to find out its all arguments mostly I have problems with certain subjects but if I feel stronlgy on something I will voice it via PM, Im with you mello
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tansun
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still reading these old posts - PMing someone still isnt the way to do it though ( to argue with someone ) cause DB can read those too ya know - just dont bother with it at all and notify moderator is all you can really do ( no wars as of late i notice ) but doesnt anyone find the bickering amusing???? i will be honest here - i like to read it sometimes for a good laugh - keeps things going sometimes , and makes the board move faster sometimes. ( now , i am not going to start a fight - but if anyone wants to bash in here , i have to say - i really dont mind reading it ) and we all have to realize - its just TYPE ( words ) thats all it is. i dont think anyone can get too personal on a computer unless you let them IMHO
Tansun
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