I guess, according to Tred's and limp's contributions" it's okay to spout off hurting people's feelings in a thoughtless careless manner as long as you later write that you "really didn't mean to" and say
you just wanted to get people's reaction for a good discussion.

Bottom line: If you think BEFORE you write, perhaps you can avoid having to qualify what you "really meant" later. Part of "getting along" here means that you respect other members enough to make sure that you have thought through as best you can what you mean to say so that your message is clear as possible. Otherwise, (especially if you are tackling controversial issues) you can unwittingly "flame," attack and alienate other people.

"when I feel the need to to say what I FEEL": If everybody wrote on this board whatever they felt whenever they felt the need to, we likely wouldn't have very many happy, friendly members. Look at jfcooper: he was a new member, but I haven't seen him back here since your "board change" post.

Why do you think you can back off of what you say -deflecting the issue by implying YOU are an injured party because somebody had the nerve to tell you that your post (intentionally or not) was thoughtless and nasty.

It sounds like you can dish it out, but you just can't take it (what's it like to be soooo thoughtful and perfect)? What A wonderful human being you are.

You haven't had anyone tell you that something you wrote indicates that you are thoughtless and mean? - well, there is always a first time.

Oh by the way, I hope by writing this post I didn't step on your toes and hurt your feelings or your reputation as being such a nice sensitive guy... I really DIDN'T MEAN to. I am really (lke you and Limper) so very thoughtful, compassionate and sensitive. Please don't be mad at me or badmouth me: I am just writing like you what I FEEL: therefore, a am surely pristine and virtuous. kisscheek: