Ya'll really can't lump all 19 yr olds together though. I moved away from home at 17 and left all the partying behind me. So, not all 19 yr olds are immature. Granted, this one wasn't very bright to do what he did. I do not want to say he wasn't very bright, because he could have been, but mislead along the way.

When my oldest daughter smoked for the first (and only) time, she was caught and I did something I've never heard of anyone doing before. I realized that at her age, it will have to be HER decision. I can't always be there with her. She's a gifted child in school, so I made her write me a 2 page paper on the dangers of smoking, plus the usual grounding. That was also done with alcohol when I found out they snuck beer from a parent's refrig while at a slumber party. One page on the short term and one on the long term. I had to convince her it was not good for HER. She would be the one to say no, not me. The commercial with the frying pan and the egg just isn't cutting it any more.

Now, on the other hand. I tried to give my youngest daughter one of my Naproxen for her cramps. She saw me get it from a script bottle and had a cow. It has been drilled into these kids heads NOT to take ANY script that is not yours. I finally had to let her know the doc gave all of us one huge script to help save money. That part, I don't mind. I don't want her taking something someone has snagged from their parents' medicine chest. She and her friends may dress all in black, but they are against drugs, tattoos, excessing earrings, and GOTH. I know, contradictory, eh?

Tray, keep the book reports in mind for when your child gets older. It really helped to steer her away from things and have the strength to say no on her own. Not because she was scared to get caught, but because she knew the dangers. Your child seems to be the type to get a good lesson from that. Not every child is going to learn something that way.

But, I must say, I was very pleased when I saw multiple books on alcohol and her reading them and taking notes! I said she must have multiple sources and direct quotes, just like a teacher would.