I'm with you, Jojom. Being male myself, I am very aware that some women are quite nervous around me due to previous bad experiences. Rape really is the ultimate abuse of power by a man. No woman ever 'deserves' to be raped and any man doing it should have certain offending body parts removed. I spent a considerable amount of time in the lesbian community (I was a kind of mascot, seeing I was built on the pygmy plan) and they did a great deal to educate me on what was acceptable behavior and what was not. And trust me, the not was very well re-enforced. Because of the industry I am in (convention planning) I am frequently faced with underaged girls who have been pressured to go further than they were comfortable with. I've used some very...ummmm....man to man methods to get across to these types that no really does mean no. Not maybe, or coax me some more and I'll say yes. No means no, and that is the end of it in my book.

D2003