First of all, its tough losing a parent...Kandi, my condolences go out to you. My Dad died in the latter part of June this year, and it hard not to pick up the phone to call him. He was in hospice. They are angels, and I am sure that there is a special place in heaven for hospice workers.
Disposal of CII meds? You could always dissolve them in water and then flush 'em, patches take to the county health department and explain to them. Make sure that their destruction is witnessed. Its a right here in WA state.
Take care
trixxie