Coty,
I hope you took Lovepink's advice and check out the message board she mentioned.
I have gone through a bunch of "dog doo" with bad men. I got rid of them all. I hate to say it but men and women are too different to get along and respect one another. I am an old spinster by choice and I get lonely, but do have kids to drive me nuts. I don't need a man to do the same. You have to make your own plan and stick to it. Its your life not anyone else's. All anybody can do is make suggestions the choice is yours. J~