HI coolcandle,I think I understand what you are saying but it really seems like Cotys biggest problem is Coty,yeah the guy is a jerk,but first she marries an alcoholic and then marries a drugaddict and if you will notice her subject title speaks volumes for itself" husband stoled my meds". I mean it seems like "husband pushes me thru shower door",would be a bit more important! Such as a couple of weeks ago when she is arrested for driving under the influence or wreckless driving,many people were offering her legal advice as to her criminal record and she said it herself,she didn't care about that,she just wanted her meds back.Do you see a pattern here? I truly feel for her,but I am only go by her posts and I think this jerk is not the biggest problem in her life.And I am the first to say I am not a huge fan of most law enforcement types but come on,she was the one arrested here,not him! There is always two sides and I would be interested to see why they took her and not him,alot more happened here than we will ever know.I think Coty is looking for help and this board may or may not be the best place to get it,but it will be great if she can break some of the bad habits and cycles in her life.I am saying this out of care and nothing else,but I am sure if she kicks him out she will have another like him before too long.I am sure he is a total but Coty was arrested for something also.Maybe if someone lives near her area she could use a good buddy to help get out of some of this horrible cycle she is in.life is too short,Coty you deserve to find some one who really loves you and you need to find a way to love yourself also.Take Care and Be Well! Wren'