Actually violance starts with threats, then goes from there. If anyone male or female tells you Im gonna hit you, or I will break your arm, that is the first step to actually following thru with the action. This is the best time to get out.

Remember that we chose our partners, and you might unconsciously be attracting violent partners.

From what Ive learned and experinced, violence towards a spouse is a learned thing. Dad did it, so I learn to do it. I had seen mommy get beat on several occasions, so it must be part of being together. What ever your take on this violent people tend to repeat the habits of their parents. This vicious cycle usually does not stop with switching partners as we tend to repeat history. Find out why you have allowed him to become violent, and examine why you have chose to stay. My guess is that you have violent tendencys yourself, so you may need to address your own behavior.

I dont mean to sound nasty or have no empathy, but this is a relationship with 2 people, and Ive never seen a dysfuctional relationship where BOTH partners were not contributing to the probelm(s).

I know many people feel for you as they should, but you make your own descions. But your decsions up to this point have at the least lead to this situation.

Drew