Wow. It isn't just mom's with small kids. I have one in college, a high schooler, and a 6th grader. Sometimes I feel so guilty because I am not functioning as I once did. Somedays it is so difficult and overwhelming just to get out of bed. I feel very bad because they deserve better. They are wonderful kids. I sometimes wonder how I did it in my 30's & early 40's. Somedays my pain & depression are so bad that I can't do the simplest things. I think a lot of us suffer that way. We can not compare ourselves to anyone else but just do the best we can and let our kids know that above all else, they are loved and valued.
My fantasy is to have a trustworthy (I've been ripped off before by cleaning people that I'd had for years)person that could come in every day & help me accomplish things. Not do all my work but just help. That would be the greatest luxury of all to me and would help my depression and even my pain. I think anxiety and depression make pain worse.
My last baby weighed 11 pounds at birth and I am 5'6" and weigh 130. Before he was walking I would literally have to roll out of bed my back hurt so badly.